Ask for What You Want
I am often inspired by my clients and friends. Sure, people learn from me, but I learn from them too. Lately I've been especially...
Maybe It's Psychological
“Is there something psychological going on?” This is one of the main questions people are struggling with when they call me about sexual...
Does Porn “Re-Wire” Your Brain and Cause Erectile Dysfunction?
There’s a lot of “information” – actually, misinformation – out there about the effects of porn on the human brain and sexual response,...
Pro Dating Tips: Stop Trying to Guess
If you’ve been dating recently, you’re probably familiar with the exciting but agonizing moment when you realize you like someone, and...
Driving your Maserati, Part 2
Here's more info on the dual-control model of sexual functioning, specifically tips for "hitting your gas pedal" if you find it hard to...
Driving Your Maserati, Part 1
I want to talk with you about a very cool idea in sex therapy called the dual control model of sexual functioning. (1) What I mean by...
U jealous? Tips for coping.
Jealousy.... Truly the bane of many relationships. Haven't we all felt that stomach-dropping, vision-blurring sense of dread and panic...
Does therapy work?
There are a lot of ways to answer this question. There's a fairly large body of research that examines therapy outcomes (i.e., whether it...
Taking back pleasure
It's August. Hot, late summer feels like a lull in the year, a natural time to indulge human laziness before starting up again in the...
Why "what turns me on?" is the wrong question to ask
Do you ever feel at a loss about how to feel more desire, enjoy sex more, reignite a spark that was once there, or to want sex again?...
