Esther Perel's fantastic TED Talk on infidelity
As she says, this talk is for anyone who has ever loved. A must-see:
Do you feel disposable?
Today I'm talking to the women out there. This topic is loaded with gender politics so, even though men experience feeling disposable too, that will be for a different post. A lot of this is about women in relationships with men, though certainly any woman who's grown up in this society will be able to relate to what we're talking about.
One of the big, BIG themes in my work with women -- which has surprised me but maybe shouldn't have -- is how many of us feel as though ou
Coping with sexual pain
An article published recently in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that, for women who experience vulvo-vaginal pain, women's and their partners' acceptance of the pain was associated with better sexual functioning and sexual satisfaction. As I tweeted a link to this article, part of my brain was going, "Wait, what??? Accept vaginal pain and have sex in spite of it? Isn't that the worst kind of suck-it-up, anti-feminist approach to women's sexual concerns that you've ever
On insecurity, self-doubt, and low self-esteem
How many of us haven't felt the dull ache of insecurity at important times in our lives? Sometimes we're going along just fine and then bam, something shakes our foundation... a new job, a new relationship, a breakup, a birthday, a crisis... and we spiral back to teenage-era levels of self-doubt. For other people, the self-doubting questions never really stop. Do I have anything valuable to offer? Can I really pull this off? Could this person possibly love me? Am I enough?
